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Post by Tera♥Lynn on Mar 31, 2008 9:28:00 GMT -5
a guy in a band??
You know how all guys in bands get pinpointed as cheaters and what not...but have you ever and would you ever date a guy in a band?
I did once...and it wasn't a great experience. It only lasted about 4 months. His reason for it ending was the distance...but honestly, I think he was just messed up. Bipolar, crazy...I couldn't deal with it. If you only knew...haha.
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Post by Johanna on Mar 31, 2008 13:42:21 GMT -5
No, I have not.
I do have a thing for guys in bands. I mean, come on.. boys that can sing and play guitar. Forget about it! With that said.. regardless of the stereotype.. I probably would date one.
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Post by dENiSE G on Mar 31, 2008 13:43:28 GMT -5
nope. but i would LOVE to. haha. know anyone available?
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Post by Cara ♥ on Mar 31, 2008 18:04:05 GMT -5
I have never dated a guy in a band, but I have dated guys that are in the band (yeah, I am a band nerd). I almost madeout with a guy that was in a band, until he completely lied to me about his age... that is a completely different story though. And yes, I would definitely date a guy in a band. =) ♥ |
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Post by dENiSE G on Apr 1, 2008 0:10:42 GMT -5
u mean, the band in high school? not a band as in their own band. one word makes such a difference
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Post by Cara ♥ on Apr 1, 2008 0:33:01 GMT -5
u mean, the band in high school? not a band as in their own band. one word makes such a difference Yes, the band in high school. And I was in the band for 3 years in college. Oh how I do not miss it...but it was fun! =) ♥ |
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Post by Tera♥Lynn on Apr 1, 2008 15:47:11 GMT -5
awww band geeks are cute, Cara!!  I guess I'd do it again, depending how SANE the guy is, lol. This guy was just completely nuts. One minute he'd be all "I miss you baby!!" and the next it was "God, I told you to back off!!" and then when I wouldnt talk to him for a day or something hed be "I miss you" all over...AFTER he told me to back off. I was so confused with him ALL THE TIME. He lives in Wisconsin. I drove 7 hours to see him for New Years. I paid for the hotel. I paid for the food. Then, I flew back up there in February. I paid for my flight. I paid for the hotel. THEN...I had booked a flight for March a couple months prior, and yet again, I paid for the flight. BUT...I never went because we got in a fight and I told him I just wouldnt come to see him. I didnt think we'd talk again after that, but he called me every single day after that like nothing ever happened. And he never once said anything about me coming to seeh him that weekend. So a few days later I was like "Soooo am I still coming?" and he said "Dude..I thought you werent coming so I made other plans" I was like EXCUSE ME. I can't even describe how p!ssed off I was. I told him he owed me money for the flight since it was HIS idea that I come and since I wasnt coming, I basically threw money away. So I cancelled the flight, and it ended up being cancelled anyway due to weather and I would have gotten my money back, DAMMIT. He still calls me and acts like everything's fine. I think he needs help. UGHH. |
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Post by dENiSE G on Apr 1, 2008 18:52:49 GMT -5
wow. that is confusing. how do u deal with that?
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Post by marina on Apr 1, 2008 20:03:39 GMT -5
Im 24yrs old and Ive never had a boyfriend. I think I should just join a nunnery or something.
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Post by Cara ♥ on Apr 1, 2008 22:02:19 GMT -5
awww band geeks are cute, Cara!! I guess I'd do it again, depending how SANE the guy is, lol. This guy was just completely nuts. One minute he'd be all "I miss you baby!!" and the next it was "God, I told you to back off!!" and then when I wouldnt talk to him for a day or something hed be "I miss you" all over...AFTER he told me to back off. I was so confused with him ALL THE TIME. He lives in Wisconsin. I drove 7 hours to see him for New Years. I paid for the hotel. I paid for the food. Then, I flew back up there in February. I paid for my flight. I paid for the hotel. THEN...I had booked a flight for March a couple months prior, and yet again, I paid for the flight. BUT...I never went because we got in a fight and I told him I just wouldnt come to see him. I didnt think we'd talk again after that, but he called me every single day after that like nothing ever happened. And he never once said anything about me coming to seeh him that weekend. So a few days later I was like "Soooo am I still coming?" and he said "Dude..I thought you werent coming so I made other plans" I was like EXCUSE ME. I can't even describe how p!ssed off I was. I told him he owed me money for the flight since it was HIS idea that I come and since I wasnt coming, I basically threw money away. So I cancelled the flight, and it ended up being cancelled anyway due to weather and I would have gotten my money back, DAMMIT. He still calls me and acts like everything's fine. I think he needs help. UGHH. Awww thanks Tera!  How do you put up with this guy? He sounds like he is a little unstable... maybe he is. But, guuurrl you are awesome! Find you a real man! Inserting snapping here. I think I watched too much Maury this week. ♥ |
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Post by Tera♥Lynn on Apr 2, 2008 7:21:57 GMT -5
awww band geeks are cute, Cara!! I guess I'd do it again, depending how SANE the guy is, lol. This guy was just completely nuts. One minute he'd be all "I miss you baby!!" and the next it was "God, I told you to back off!!" and then when I wouldnt talk to him for a day or something hed be "I miss you" all over...AFTER he told me to back off. I was so confused with him ALL THE TIME. He lives in Wisconsin. I drove 7 hours to see him for New Years. I paid for the hotel. I paid for the food. Then, I flew back up there in February. I paid for my flight. I paid for the hotel. THEN...I had booked a flight for March a couple months prior, and yet again, I paid for the flight. BUT...I never went because we got in a fight and I told him I just wouldnt come to see him. I didnt think we'd talk again after that, but he called me every single day after that like nothing ever happened. And he never once said anything about me coming to seeh him that weekend. So a few days later I was like "Soooo am I still coming?" and he said "Dude..I thought you werent coming so I made other plans" I was like EXCUSE ME. I can't even describe how p!ssed off I was. I told him he owed me money for the flight since it was HIS idea that I come and since I wasnt coming, I basically threw money away. So I cancelled the flight, and it ended up being cancelled anyway due to weather and I would have gotten my money back, DAMMIT. He still calls me and acts like everything's fine. I think he needs help. UGHH. Awww thanks Tera! How do you put up with this guy? He sounds like he is a little unstable... maybe he is. But, guuurrl you are awesome! Find you a real man! Inserting snapping here. I think I watched too much Maury this week. ♥ NO WORRIES!! We aren't even together anymore...and we never were really, officially. He said we were dating and seeing each other, but didnt want to make it official yet bla bla bla. He had just gotten out of a shootty relationship and so on and so forth. I am so sick of guys using that as an excuse. he was completely confusing. He was telling me how he was falling in love with me, he wanted me to move up to Milwaukee and go to school there so I could get my own place and he could stay with me, how important I was to him, how he wants nobody else but me, and he'd call me every night before and after shows and reassure me that I was his girl and he was going to be alone and thinking of me and this and that. And he'd call me at like 7 am just to tell me he missed me. Cute things like that..and then out of nowhere, he wakes up one day and is literally "I cant do this..what am I doing?!" and tells me "I dont want you to get attached or fall in love with me" I was like EXCUSE MEEEEEE....you dont say those kinds of things to a girl and honestly have no doubt in ur mind that she is already getting attached and/or falling in love with you. ESPECIALLY when he told ME numerous times he was falling in love with ME. Basically, he is an idiot...played mind games with me, and then tried to turn it around on me in the end like it was all my fault. |
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Post by Cara ♥ on Apr 2, 2008 11:57:43 GMT -5
Pssssssh...that is really strange. I know many people that do that to get out of situations and it drives me crazy. But, it definitely seems to have worked out for the best. And I wish I understood the male population... seriously guys need to come with a manual or "the Guy Brain for dummies" or something... ♥ |
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Post by Tera♥Lynn on Apr 2, 2008 12:03:27 GMT -5
I talked to another guy in a band friend and explained to him everything that went on and he basically said "i hate to say it but thats how us band guys are" and to make me feel better, said that my guy probably was falling in love with me and really did care about me, but he might have gotten freaked out by the distance and all that.
I dont know about any of you...but distance means nothing to me if/when you care about someone. Even though it sucked seeing each other like, once a month, I was okay with it and I dealt with it. We talked everyday and planned our next visit and so on and so forth. I was happy and I wasn't letting the distance thing be a factor in the relationhip. When he was on tour, I wouldnt get calls until 3 or 4 in the morning, and I was okay with that, and looked forward to those calls.
But Cara you're right...things worked out for the better. I am sure I'll still go see them play when they come back and hang out and stuff, but he's in for a rude awakening if he thinks it will be more than that just because he's in town.
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Post by Cara ♥ on Apr 2, 2008 12:15:33 GMT -5
I agree with you on the long distance relationship thing. If you truly care for someone you will make it work. And the visits are wonderful because you have all this build up of wanting to see them and you do and its like magic. But, I also agree you have to be in the mindset to handle it. You have to understand what it means, what it will take, and just know it is what you want. Oh man... now I sound like a love Doctor. Just call me Dr. Cara Love! jk... haha ♥ |
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Post by Tera♥Lynn on Apr 2, 2008 12:20:01 GMT -5
haha Dr. Cara, thanks for understanding!!
I agree though..he knew from the get go that I lived in Cleveland, and it was goin to be an issue, and later on, used it against me. And he was also going through a breakup and what not and I guess she was cheating on him..and that was his excuse to not start a new relationship bc he was scared of getting hurt. He told me all the time that he didnt trust me. It was ridiculous. He was the one out doing shows everynight, getting drunk, and I was at home with my roommate, probably watching Ghost Hunters or Home Improvement all alone, lol. I look back at it and think "What was I thinking?!" Not because of the distance, but because of the way he treated me and the mind games he played.
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